of heartbreaks.

23 Jun

Lately, i’ve been surrounded by people with heartbreaks. and for some reason, it’s making my heart feel heavy. it’s really different when you’ve experienced it first hand — heartbreak, i mean. before, when my heart was free from any trace of pain, i would listen to friends blab about their frustrations with their current boyfriends and i would comfort them whenever they break down. But i was somehow oblivious, honestly i was – because i didn’t really know how they felt.

Well now, it’s a whole different story. When i see my friends cry over some jerk, i feel down too. It’s unfair for them to go through that when they deserve better.

People just have different ways of dealing with pain. See my outline of the different characters i came up from my string of heartbroken friends:

  • The Damsel in Distress – or she can also be called – the crybaby. she expects everyone to mourn with her. she calls on all her friends and tells them that she’s sad. she wants everyone to comfort her and to lift her up. her friends are her means of escape. she’s an open book when it comes to her feelings – every little detail that happens between her and her assailant, she tells. She’s the forever victim that is eternally waiting for her knight-in-shining-armor.
  • The Warfreak – she’s heartbroken and she’s angry. she’s mad at her partner, at the situation, and at the world. she becomes a complete pessimist – no longer believing in love, she spreads out her negativity to everyone else around her. she vows never to love again and is suspicious of every guy who shows interest to her. she’s been wounded deeply, so all she see are black and red.
  • The Actress – don’t be fooled. yes, she’s hurt and yes, she’s broken, but she comforts herself through pretense. she’s not comfortable with parading her feelings to other people. she doesn’t like the people around her to know just how bad she feels. she would stop her tears and she would act normal – laugh, cry, live. but deep inside, during those quite moments – she breaks down and she cries herself to sleep. She may seem strong – but she’s not. She’s just good at pretending that she is.
  • The Martyr – she’s actually a little bit of the 3 previous types. but she’s the worst cause she’s heartbroken but she’s willing to overlook everything and be at the mercy of her no-good partner. she might cry, be angry or pretend that she’s okay but deep inside, she doesn’t care. Cause the minute she gets the chance to be with the guy – she’ll grab it. what her friends say won’t matter, the amount of pain she’s been through won’t matter and even if the whole world were against them — it still won’t matter. she may think she’s in love – but she’s just scared of being alone. that’s why she’s willing to be stupid – because she can’t stand the thought of not having anyone. among the three – she’s the biggest mess.

as i said, it’s wrenching to see your loved-ones go through any sort of heartbreak. and there might be times when i disagree with the way they deal with the pain, but i respect that. that’s their story and they get to choose how it goes.

a guy friend once told me,

this is the reason why i never want to have a daughter – i cant’ stand the thought that a guy might break her heart. i’d probably kill the guy if that happens.

if only all men were like this — then i wouldn’t have any reason to write this blog in the first place. =D


4 Responses to “of heartbreaks.”

  1. Valerie June 23, 2010 at 3:21 pm #

    I love the four types you created. I’m definitely the Actress… but I’ve seen all of these types in my friends at one point or another. It’s hard to watch the people you love get hurt, but the best you can ever do for them is comfort them and let them know that you’re there.

    Your guy friend sounds so sweet.

    Wonderful post!

    • Sheryl Blossom June 24, 2010 at 1:38 am #

      thanks. =) me too, i think im definitely an actress.

      he is. sadly, we no longer work together. tsk

  2. Paolo Lim June 24, 2010 at 3:02 pm #

    pangitag mga but-an lagi, arun dli maminuang.
    kanang mga nerds o, dli gyud na mangabit, kay computer ra pirmi huna hunaon. :p

    • Sheryl Blossom June 25, 2010 at 12:57 am #

      mas lisud kontra ang computer pooey. 😛 mas ma’y pag babaye kay pwede nako awayon if ever, pero ang computer, wa’y point. 😛 haha

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